You can develop self-confidence, but it cannot be bought or received. If you do not have enough self-confidence, it can be difficult. Not everyone is capable of feeling secure and positive at all times. There are even moments when you are scared to face other people. Having low self-esteem can affect how you live. For those who need a self-confidence boost, read these guidelines. They’re simple yet very effective. Look the Part Superficial as it may seem, dressing well can indeed build your self confidence. You don’t have to dress like a fashion plate everyday but do make an effort. Make sure your clothes are clean and neatly pressed, and your shoes shiny. Women may add a touch of blush and lipstick to brighten their countenance. These details may seem trivial but when you go out in public, like at the bank for instance, look and around and observe. Well-dressed people exude an aura of confidence compared with those who don’t make the effort. When you dress smartly, people will think you are smart and independent. But if you go to work looking like you just got out of bed, people will not expect much from you. The clothes don’t always make the man, but it makes a statement. Even if you haven’t uttered a single word yet, first impression matters more. You get noticed for looking attractive and confident. That is a good start. Think Positively It’s all in the mind, or so they say. And it is actually true. If you think you have it, it will show. Think of your talents and accomplishments. Think of the things you’re good at. Don’t let negative thoughts crowd your mind. Instead, focus your energies on happy and positive things. Affirmation can help. Choose a positive affirmation and remind yourself of that throughout the day. More importantly, it helps to be grateful and content. Self-confident people are happy with what they have. If they find something is lacking in their life, they act on it. Don’t waste your time feeling sorry for yourself. Look around you…your home, your work, friends and family. They are there to support you all the way and that is reason enough to celebrate. Relax, Have Fun and Do Something! Sometimes when you have too much time on your hands, you tend to think too much of yourself. You over-analyze your life, what you don’t have, what you need to change, etc. This can dampen, if not lower your self-confidence. Fill your days with relaxing and fun-filled activities. You may take up an exercise class; do soothing meditations or just simply hang out with friends. People mope when they have nothing good to do. Do the things you are good at. If you are a runner, swimmer or a cyclist, get moving. Focus your energies on doing things that make you happy and fulfilled. You will find yourself exhilarated and more confident when you finally accomplish that feat. Self-confidence cannot be given as a gift, nor can it be taken away. Your confidence depends on you. If you are weak and allow insecurity to dominate you, you will never have the level of self-confidence you need.